10. Improved Relationships
Getting along with people is one of the greatest challenges in life. Marriage, family, “neighbor,” and national problems account for most of the conflicts and stresses in life. One of the reasons why conflict in personal relationships is difficult to resolve is because often the problem lies with us. Sure, there are miserable people in this world who probably cannot get along with anybody, but almost everybody seems to be able to get along with somebody. Why is it that some marriages are unsuccessful and when both parties remarry they are happy? There are probably many reasons but one has to be within the people themselves. In describing difficult relationships we sometimes say there is “poor chemistry” between two people. While that usually is used in an idiomatic way, it may be closer to the truth than we want to admit.
Our chemistry does affect how we relate to people. Change peoples’ chemistry with alcohol and those who are normally meek and mild may become aggressive and belligerent. Often people need a couple of drinks at the end of the day to “wind down.” While the causes of ADD in children have not yet been determined, chemical factors are clearly involved. There are dozens of other examples of how our chemistry affects our ability to get along with people. Some people need a couple of martinis at lunch to get through the day. Even the expression “take a pill” implies that changing our chemistry would make people easier to get along with. Yet, we wonder why the drug problem is so great especially among our young people. We seem to be teaching them that to improve relationships or be able to handle relationships, we must alter our body chemistry. Perhaps if our body chemistry was right in the first place, we could handle some of the adversity that comes our way in the form of people with whom we have everyday contact.
There is also the fact that people who just do not feel well, whose bodies are not working as they should, are not usually the happiest of people and not the easiest people to get along with. It could be that health-and life-robbing vertebral subluxations are contributing to their bad disposition. Given that the nerve system controls the glands that produce all of the chemicals in the body, vertebral subluxation could and does directly affect body chemistry and consequently indirectly affects our moods. Here’s another thought, suppose the people that irritate us were under chiropractic care? If we maintain that the problem is not us but is them, then perhaps getting them under care, improving their body chemistry and enabling them to function better will make them kinder, nicer and easier to get along with. Sure that may appear to be a selfish reason to refer your boss or your neighbor or you fellow worker to the chiropractor, but remember it benefits them also. They will be healthier, happier, and let’s face it, improved relationships work both ways. Of course, chiropractic will not solve all the world’s problems or even all of yours but if we can solve even a few that would be a good start.
Our chemistry does affect how we relate to people.
By: Dr. Joeseph Strauss, D.C.